"Kindness is a gift anyone can afford to give"
"You know what? Teenagers are never understood and if they are at least heard by chance, they are misunderstood!" I started.
"Well, that's because your behaviour is beyond one's understanding! Take arrogance, for instance, is that a thing worthy of considering 'cool'?" my grandmother ended.
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Checkmate!
I had nothing to say that could beat her wise remark. It hurt me then and it hurts me now too, to accept it is true. To accept the fact in the teenagers' world that arrogance for teens is cool.
That back-answering and passing mean remarks are more playful and less boring than sweet, kind words.
That disrespecting parents is more trendy than getting along well with them.
That roasting someone makes you look stronger than supporting someone.
That ignoring someone is wiser than acknowledging them.
And that, being ignorant, arrogant, and irresponsible is being a perfect mature teenager!
Parents, who've been all jolly while raising a kindergarten child have also eventually accepted that the same child will someday become an arrogant teenager who'll someday disrespect them because the irony is, they've someday done the same to their parents too!
Why are we letting such a sick tradition nourish in our society?
Why are we deep-rooting coldness in our young teenagers for it to become a solid, permanent cold heart in the future?
Why can't teenagers themselves question their "coolness"?
Why don't they worry if it switches to coldness?
If we eliminate the effects on the entire society for a while, we'll notice the arrogance of teens is a household issue to be handled.
Parents are humans, they have feelings that are wrecked badly when their teens offer such hatred for them.
How often do teens roll their eyes a day?
How many times do they slam their doors shut without bothering to check in on the family?
How often do they get away with these annoying acts and why don't they see anything wrong with it themselves?
Why doesn't hurting others' emotions bother them?
Or...are they too hurt themselves?
Rudeness is one of the signs of insecurity and weakness. Our teens find proper communications with the elders uncool.
That matter is left there but unfortunately, it has more to it than just that!
Lack of communication with the family leads to a gap that only expands more with time and as it does, strangers feel closer than family! This then leads to all sorts of sketchy deeds such as chatting with strangers online since that feels easier...
Arrogance only makes people go further away from us. Lesser people then start reaching out for us and loneliness is born- just the start.
It is then followed by low self-esteem and a lack of love for self. The coldness only increases, you see? Which is then followed by self-consciousness and the fear of not being accepted by other "cool" peers. Which in no time leads to anxiety and once the domino effect has started, it just leads to a deep FALL!
And now we see a problem. Too early, isn't it? Well, if you say irreversible damage can be fixed then yes, it is early.
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But you can avoid the damage in the first place...
- Feel and express gratitude towards your family.
- Make kindness contagious.
- Make kindness the new 'cool'.
- And most importantly, your parents love you, be worthy of their love-
Be worthy of being their child!
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this issue is not spoken by many people.....but i loved your thinking process ........u knew what u had to say and u said it without hesitation....keep it up....and would like more articles like these.
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the world should read this post...we need more posts like this one, well written though!!
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Encouraging words, as always...Thank you very much!! :)
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